Cases of child maintenance after marriage mates separate are some of the most frequent issues at the civil and magistrates courts nationwide. What is worrying is the fact that most men are constantly offering peanuts to children that they fathered. That is really unfortunate because these men are accepting the fact that they are the fathers of these children yet they refuse to take care of them because they are no longer hi good books with their mother. Whilst it is understandable that someone can have irreparable differences with their wife or lover, there can never be a good reason for anyone to neglect their children because of those differences. Your children are your responsibility as a man no matter how much they disgust you or how much you hate their mother. It is advisable to continue loving your children and do your best to nurture them into responsible adults that will not separate from their mates and make their children live under a single parent. It is wise for a man to not even wait to be dragged to court over maintenance of his own children because the parental love in him should push him to naturally provide for them. That there is the potential for the children's mother to also benefit from the money or even abuse it as the guardian in charge is a fad that men can do very little about. However, women must not take advantage of the privileges that come with being the guardians in charge. They must prove to be loving parents just the same way men would have proved to be responsible by paying maintenance. They must not only ensure that maintenance money is used for their children's benefit but also play a role to provide for those chit-then in whatever way they can. The worst mother is one that sits on her laurels and wait for her ex to pay maintenance for the children, taking the money as a salary or pension of some sort. Most children lose respect for such mothers and they encourage other women to separate from their husbands so they can earn that shameful salary. There is a good number of former marriage mates that separated but parents play their roles as responsible parents with mutual respect for each other. They fought and separated but fighting ended there. Now they meet like friends knowing they need to be civil for the sake of their kids. They accept that the children conned them for life and give each other access to the children whilst the mother uses maintenance money responsibly. Such people should be emulated.
Extracted from HMetro by Dr Clarence
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